Must-Read for Long-Term Couples: Wake-Up Call to All of Us

This is what some couples fail to see or realize. 

I came across this post from facebook and it's worthy reading... such a wake-up call. 
#MarriageTips #RelationshipIssues

Fox Garcia

September 28 at 9:17am


After the years have passed, it all disappears.

After how many years, the spark will go. The reasons why you loved the other person will be unknown. The butterflies in your stomach will soon disappear. You will forget why you liked that person in the first place. You'll start to see all the wrong and the ugly you chose to look blindly in your beginnings. Now, going home to each other's arms is not as exciting to look forward to as before. Cuddling and those exchange of sweet words become rare and all the fighting will take over.

Sex will become less and less. You'll be shocked that one day, those nights and hours you spend in sex will now be spent in silence and arguments. You'd rather cover your partner up rather than take their clothes off. Appreciation goes less and less too. You have to accept that.

This is the sad reality of long term relationships.

You become familiar with each other rather than staying "in love" with each other. You become more of friends rather than lovers. This is the stage where you choose, is being with this person worth it anymore? Are the fights worth it or is it easier to just get out and leave? Some couples make it, some don't. Why? Because they all made the choice some didn't make. They chose to stay, maybe because of some strong roots or maybe because they don't want to start again.

I once came across someone who has been married for 30 years. I asked her, "did you ever caught your husband cheat?" She said, "ofcourse, it is normal. After some time you'll just get used to it and think that the most important thing will be that he goes home to you every night." That is how their relationship worked for so many years. But isn't it sad? To be used to some habits that die hard? Well if that's their case, I respect that. I also came across a man who has been married for 10 years and decided to end it after he caught his ex wife cheating. I asked, how come you ended it when others would just forgive? He said "a man's ego will always be there. Maybe the double standards of the society added factors or maybe I realized she wasn't worth it anymore." It was a sad ending but hey, he's happier now with someone and I guess it all comes down to one vital thing, happiness.

"Don't sleep mad at each other" -- one of the lines I always hear from commercials, blogs and the likes but I tell you this. Sometimes sleeping off an argument is better rather than facing it while everything is hot. You respect each other enough that when they're not ready, you give them space to think things through. You don't need to fix it outright. Sometimes it causes more damage. Time out is also good for each other. Time out to think and meditate not time out to go message other people and flirt!

The society has so much influenced us that having a long term relationship is easy, just forgive and forget and it's done. Road to forever! But that's not it. There will be a lot of unspoken words, a lot of unnecessary words thrown at you, and a lot of pride and changes to adapt to. Being in a road to a long term relationship is good but never forget to not lose yourself while in it. Be with a person who will not mind if you get fat or your skin sags or you lose the beauty that once made him fall for you, after all you are not a timeless beauty. Make sure that you're in that road with someone who will be worth your love, pain and anger, worth your time and effort and most of all, worth of that kindness your heart has yet to unleash.

-feel free to share. 

I Won't Give Up On Us... Even If The Skies Get Rough

I Won't Give Up 
Jason Mraz


When I look into your eyes
It’s like watching the night sky
Or a beautiful sunrise
There’s so much they hold.

And just like them old stars
I see that you’ve come so far
To be right where you are
How old is your soul?

I won’t give up on us
Even if the skies get rough
I’m giving you all my love
I’m still looking up.
And when you’re needing your space
To do some navigating
I’ll be here patiently waiting
To see what you find.

‘Cause even the stars they burn
Some even fall to the earth
We’ve got a lot to learn
God knows we’re worth it
No, I won’t give up.

I don’t wanna be someone who walks away so easily
I’m here to stay and make the difference 
that I can make
Our differences they do a lot to teach us how to use
The tools and gifts we got yeah, we got a lot at stake.

And in the end, you’re still my friend 
at least we did intend
For us to work we didn’t break, 
we didn’t burn
We had to learn how to bend 
without the world caving in
I had to learn what I’ve got, 
and what I’m not
And who I am

I won’t give up on us
Even if the skies get rough
I’m giving you all my love
I’m still looking up
Still looking up.

I won’t give up on us 
(no I’m not giving up)
God knows I’m tough enough 
(I am tough, I am loved)
We’ve got a lot to learn 
(we’re alive, we are loved)
God knows we’re worth it 
(and we’re worth it)
I won’t give up on us
Even if the skies get rough
I’m giving you all my love
I’m still looking up...

I Wont Give Up – Jason Mraz Lyrics

Nothing much to say... I won't give up. 

This Too Shall Pass

When praying is the only thing I can do... I close my eyes and spend my happiest moments with the Lord. I know, this too shall pass. God is with me and I can bear all things through Him. 

May He give me strength to overcome the pains and take away all doubts. 

Making My Marriage Last a Lifetime

Dad, Mom, Eieo and Eiea

I love him. He loves me. We've got love. But is that really enough? Love is so powerful that yes, it could move mountains. We have love and we're willing to stick together to keep this marriage alive, burning and kicking. We'll do whatever it takes - just to grow old together and to keep our vows of a lifetime commitment.

Yes, our isn't perfect and I know it won't ever be. But I know I am so blessed for having my hubby as he has loved me all his life though he isn't that expressive and showy about it. He has his own little ways of making me feel loved ; he has shown and taught me love differently. Now that I understand his language of love, I have been trying my best to read between the lines and appreciate all his actions and gestures towards me and our family. 

I have been married to my dearest hubby for more than six years now and yes, it has been a bumpy ride. We've got ups and downs (limited only to petty quarrels and misunderstandings) which I believe are just normal and part of discovering life and marriage. I am very thankful for not having big issues and problems with him (I just didn't know is he has on me, I hope none either). I am still very grateful to GOD for blessing me with a husband whose heart is as big and as good as what I have prayed for. 

We have differences; we've even have some gaps and misunderstanding at times but that could never be a reason to keep us apart and lose this great feeling, love. I could never imagine how life would be without him. I always pray to live a longer and happier life with him on my side as whenever I see our hands together, I feel overwhelmed, blessed and fulfilled. Holding hands - priceless. 

Having Eieo in our life has made our life better and a lot happier. And I think, when we finally have Eiea in God's time, life would be at its best, the happiest ever. Yes, love is enough to keep us together and make us stick to this lifetime commitment. 

And I'll make this marriage last forever. How? I'll do whatever it takes just to get pregnant again; we'll be working our way to have another blessing. With fingers crossed, we will have Eiea soon. I believe and I pray. 

Hugs and Kisses,

Mommy Mai

Fireproof Your Marriage Forever

Fireproof Your Marriage, Watch Fireproof The MOVIE.

Hubby and I have a good marriage. I know that with GOD at the center of our relationship, I firmly believe that we can fireproof our marriage.

Yes, we love, trust and respect each other much but sometimes, those have not been enough and so we needed some time to patch things up and get back to our senses --- that we have our unico hijo, our bundle of joy, our lifetime commitment, our life together, and this 'great' marriage.

We enjoyed the movie very much. In my Facebook wall, I proudly posted this out:

I had a great late-at-night movie marathon with Hubby Rainier Policarpio - FireProof: Thumbs up! A must-see movie for couples. Very Inspiring, touching and so so True. :)

Spread the word. Encourage other couples to watch this heart-warming, touching and life-changing film. A must-see movie for couples, a perfect bonding time with your lifetime partner.

Fireproof Review ... Read what other couples have to say about this great film. See what they have in mind. Please Click HERE.

Signs of an Unhappy Marriage - Check Yours Now

Most love marriages start off with great feelings of happiness just like a fairy tale romance, but soon degenerate into something cold and boring, a kind of habit that both partners fall into and soon, the marriage starts showing those inevitable unhappy marriage signs that all married couples dread.

So, what are these signs and how can you notice them and stop them from repairing your marriage until it’s too late?

Unhappy marriage signs are sometimes easy to read, and sometimes, even though they are staring us in the face, we do not see them. Don't let this happen with you. Read on for some possible signs of an unhappy marriage.

Not all marriages are made in heaven. A marriage in order to be a happy one takes a considerable amount of work. There are many signs to an unhappy marriage. I am giving below some of those signs. If either or any of the partners is behaving in such a manner then the chances are that it is an unhappy or failing marriage.

An unhappy marriage is one of the most common marital problems that couples face today. An unhappy marriage leads to several other problems like depression and other psychological disorders. The high rates of divorce are testimony to the fact that the sanctity of marriage as an institution is being diminished day by day. Unhappy marriage signs may begin to manifest at any time. Early during the marriage or late, the important thing is that you realize these unhappy marriage signs and decide for yourself, what step you're going to take further.

Ana Mika shares some ways on how to know that your marriage is in trouble. She has a good post in her site and you may want to pay a visit on her page, too. :-) Happy Reading!

Check out this Article on 12 signs of a failing marriage by Anamika S. If either or any of the partners display these signs then the chances are that it is an unhappy or failing marriage.

Mommy Mai:

Unhappy marriage signs may or may not be the same for all couples. It is only you who can truly realize whether your marriage is happy or not. Don't make any rash decisions based on random relationship advice that you hear from time to time. Identify with it and make sure that you do what you think will make you happier. It is your life after all.

This post is for everyone; my ideas, thoughts and experiences that I do share on this blog aim to somehow lend a hand to make someone out there feel better and be able to reach out to those who are in dilemma or in confusion. If you need someone to talk to, do not hesitate to count me in. I may not help you exactly what you want to; but I can perfectly a good listener and stress reliever. I am just an e-mail away. =) See you!

♥♥♥ Myraine ♥♥♥