What You Might Have Been Doing as a Wife Is Totally Wrong

From now on, I will keep these things in mind.

I Won't Give Up On Us... Even If The Skies Get Rough

I Won't Give Up 
Jason Mraz


When I look into your eyes
It’s like watching the night sky
Or a beautiful sunrise
There’s so much they hold.

And just like them old stars
I see that you’ve come so far
To be right where you are
How old is your soul?

I won’t give up on us
Even if the skies get rough
I’m giving you all my love
I’m still looking up.
And when you’re needing your space
To do some navigating
I’ll be here patiently waiting
To see what you find.

‘Cause even the stars they burn
Some even fall to the earth
We’ve got a lot to learn
God knows we’re worth it
No, I won’t give up.

I don’t wanna be someone who walks away so easily
I’m here to stay and make the difference 
that I can make
Our differences they do a lot to teach us how to use
The tools and gifts we got yeah, we got a lot at stake.

And in the end, you’re still my friend 
at least we did intend
For us to work we didn’t break, 
we didn’t burn
We had to learn how to bend 
without the world caving in
I had to learn what I’ve got, 
and what I’m not
And who I am

I won’t give up on us
Even if the skies get rough
I’m giving you all my love
I’m still looking up
Still looking up.

I won’t give up on us 
(no I’m not giving up)
God knows I’m tough enough 
(I am tough, I am loved)
We’ve got a lot to learn 
(we’re alive, we are loved)
God knows we’re worth it 
(and we’re worth it)
I won’t give up on us
Even if the skies get rough
I’m giving you all my love
I’m still looking up...

I Wont Give Up – Jason Mraz Lyrics

Nothing much to say... I won't give up. 

My 30th Birthday at Its Best - A Loving Message from my Husband

My hubby and my kiddo made my big day - the happiest.  :)

What else can I ask for? All I can say now is - Thanks be to GOD.

December 13 - I've just turned 30. December 14 - Hubby and I will celebrate our 11 years of being together; 11 years ago when I said YES to our self-proclaimed 'May-December' love affair and began our happy journey to life.  December 16 - We will celebrate our seven (7) of being a husband and a wife - the day that started our journey to life as ONE, blessed by GOD and loved by His people. 

Our life together has always been the happiest, the most blessed one. Oh well, not because it really is it but simply because that is how we see it and we want it to be. Our marriage is 'extraordinarily unique' for not all husbands and wives would do the things we do, talk about the things we discuss during our pillow talks and meals together, hang out to places that we usually go to, and many others. Ours is simply the best and  yes, the happiest (at least for us and our families/friends). 

Yes, modesty aside, we are grateful to GOD and it feels really overwhelming to hear people appreciating our marriage and our 'relationship' ... 

Oh wait, we are not perfect and so as other marriages out there but we know it is in God's eyes, in the eyes of the people closest to our hearts, and most  of all, our own eyes as well as in the eyes of our unico hijo, Eieo. 

We would forever be thankful and grateful to God for blessing us with a happy marriage, loving families, good friends, and a wonderful life. Waking up each morning in between my two boys, my dashing 'debonairs' makes me appreciate and live life to the fullest. 

Here's my loving hubby's message to me on my 30th birthday (as posted on his FB account) : 

It's her day today... The woman who makes me realize my importance; my number one fan and my strength. She who never gives up on me and accepts me despite my weaknesses. The girl who always inspires me to do my best and asks me to pause for a while and to relax at times when I'm discouraged and depressed. Nevertheless, my lifetime partner and my wife who has been the very reason why I'm very much thankful to God.

This was the sweetest and most touching birthday message/greeting I've ever received this day. And a post that has gotten hundreds of 'likes' and 'comments'. Many shared their thoughts as to how sweet it is, how lucky I am and how blessed we are as a couple.

My reply: Such a lucky girl. I am so blessed. This is so sweet, Dad. Wasn't really expecting to read a very sweet message from you, was so surprised and deeply touched (in tears and kinikilig). Very overwhelming, Dad! Love you ALL more and always. Thanks be to GOD. Living and spending a lifetime with you, Eieo, Eiea (in HIS time) and all - PRICELESS. 

I also intended to thank all the people who, in one way or another, have touched and moved our lives...

To our big sons and daughters who are now yuppies : Thanks for the kind words, the love and all. Our family is yours too so always remember that our home is also yours. Worth it lahat ng love and TLC na naiparamdam namin sa inyo. 

As I always say, saying thank you is good, expressing your gratitude is better but passing the good deeds on is simply the best. We are so blessed to be an inspiration and a blessing to many lives. We miss you all so much! GOD speed. To GOD be the Glory!  :)

To all : Thank you very much and may the Good LORD bless us more and always.

WE ARE SO BLESSED TO BE A BLESSING AND AN INSPIRATION TO MANY LIVES.

Thanks be to GOD! Happy Holidays!

xoxo,

Mommy Mai

Learning from You - Living a Lifetime with You

What My Husband Has Taught Me

The sweetest “I love you” is felt. It’s even sweeter than the ones being heard.

All things happen for a reason - even if you have no idea what that reason is at the time. Tests of faith are indeed blessings from Him.

You can be better or bitter. Get that positive outlook at all times.

Life is a choice - as is how you handle the pitfalls along its bumpy road.

Always be happy so you can have the guts to make other people happy. You have to decide or choose to be happy.

Sometimes genuine happiness is found at home.

Learn how to say no and never feel guilty.

Accept what you cannot change.

I’ve just realized that I have learned a lot from him. I just hope he also has learned a lot from me.

And I know there is a lot more to come.

(December 16) Getting married for five years and so much in love more than nine years, hubby and I do not live a perfect married life. We have our own ups and downs, petty quarrels, arguments, misunderstandings, pillow fights, and the like. Though these circumstances do not happen often, we always manage to settle things out or just have it passed by without even saying sorry or anything.

On the brighter side, we believe that after each usual “tampuhan” between a husband and a wife, we tend to be more in love with each other.

And yes, I would always love to wake up each morning with him and our kid/s at my side. Nothing beats the kind of happiness I feel every time I see my loved ones – families, relatives and friends around me.

I will forever look forward to a new morning with you, Dad. As we grow old together, I pray that we live longer, happier and healthier to face each morning – side by side, holding hands.

This is indeed a lifetime for you and me. We’ll grow old together because the best is yet to come.

♥♥♥ Mommy Mai Raine ♥♥♥

God Gave Me You... And Forever I'd be so Grateful to Him

It was on December 14, 2002 when we started our own love story, a romantic piece that should be treasured and cherished for a lifetime. We had our own ups and downs but we managed to keep a promise and stay together.

We've got the best love story to share ... a friendship turned into something special, a friendship bloomed into something sweeter, and a relationship that could spell out F-O-R-E-V-E-R.

True enough that there are no fairy tales but there can always be happy endings - because we tied a knot on December 16, 2006 (just right after our four-year engagement). It was a very wonderful experience, an awesome memento that I'd always look back.

Walking down the aisle, hearing you sing love songs intended for me, and seeing you standing there with our families, loved ones, relatives and friends, above all, so close to God, made me feel more tensed yet so overwhelmed and excited.

Then Eieo came in to make our love story better, happier and more exciting to share... such a blessing that we would forever be thankful for. Today I live a happy, simple life that I couldn't ask for more. I am fulfilled and blessed, enough to make me feel so inspired and overwhelmed.

Happy Anniversary, sweetie. Wishing us more years together as we keep our love burning. You are indeed a blessing.

I love you.

With all that, we will surely be each other's First and Last.

Cheers to a happier and a more blessed marriage.

♥♥♥ Mommy Mai ♥♥♥

God Gave Me You – Bryan White

For all the times I felt cheated, I complained

You know how I love to complain

For all the wrongs I repeated, though I was to blame

I still cursed that rain

I didn’t have a prayer, didn’t have a clue

Then out of the blue

God gave me you to show me what’s real

There’s more to life than just how I feel

And all that I’m worth is right before my eyes

And all that I live for though I didn’t know why

Now I do, ’cause God gave me you

For all the times I wore my self pity like a favorite shirt

All wrapped up in that hurt

For every glass I saw, I saw half empty

Now it overflows like a river through my soul

From every doubt I had, I’m finally free

I truly believe

God gave me you to show me what’s real

There’s more to life than just how I feel

And all that I’m worth is right before my eyes

And all that I live for though I didn’t know why

Now I do, ’cause God gave me you

In your arms I’m someone new

With ever tender kiss from you

Oh must confess

I’ve been blessed

God gave me you to show me what’s real

There’s more to life than just how I feel

And all that I’m worth is right before my eyes

And all that I live for though I didn’t know why (didn’t know why)

Now I do (I finally do), ’cause God gave me you (God gave me You)

God gave me you

Fireproof Your Marriage Forever

Fireproof Your Marriage, Watch Fireproof The MOVIE.

Hubby and I have a good marriage. I know that with GOD at the center of our relationship, I firmly believe that we can fireproof our marriage.

Yes, we love, trust and respect each other much but sometimes, those have not been enough and so we needed some time to patch things up and get back to our senses --- that we have our unico hijo, our bundle of joy, our lifetime commitment, our life together, and this 'great' marriage.

We enjoyed the movie very much. In my Facebook wall, I proudly posted this out:

I had a great late-at-night movie marathon with Hubby Rainier Policarpio - FireProof: Thumbs up! A must-see movie for couples. Very Inspiring, touching and so so True. :)

Spread the word. Encourage other couples to watch this heart-warming, touching and life-changing film. A must-see movie for couples, a perfect bonding time with your lifetime partner.

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Pillows, Blankets & Bedsheets Must Be Shared by Two

Sleeping Together: Resolving Marital Problems, Relieving Stress and Anxiety

A sleep specialist from the University of Michigan, Dr. Beth Malow, has stated that married couples spend nearly one-third of their lives sleeping together.

She encourages married couples to cuddle. Many marriage experts believe that peaceful sleeping together can keep a marriage healthy.

Why Share a Bed?

Why do people share a bed with a spouse if they would sleep better if they didn't? Usually the answer is because even if you don't get the best night's sleep, you find comfort and emotional intimacy in sleeping together.

Sleep Position: Spooning
When you can sleep together, many sleep experts recommend "spooning." This is the sleeping position where people sleep nested together like spoons. This sleeping position is believed to increase intimacy and lower stress.

Sometimes people worry because their spouse is sleeping with their back to them or seems to be far away in the bed. Don't jump to conclusions.

Although sleep positions can be a red flag in a marriage, experts say there is no "good" or "bad" sleep positions in a marriage.

Best Solution: Compromise
So what do you do if you have different sleep preferences? Find ways to compromise. If that doesn't work, be realistic and consider separate bedrooms or twin beds.

Separate bedrooms or twin beds can save your marriage. When couples first start sleeping together, they are willing to sacrifice comfort to be close to their partner. After about five years or so, many people just want to have a good night's sleep again.

Millions of Couples Sleep Together

The truth is, millions of us do share our beds and we do sleep with others and whether we snore or not or whether we prefer the right side of the bed or the left side of the bed. Those things do affect our partners and us. Contrary to popular opinion, there is more to sharing a bed than sexual intimacy - it's a challenging and complicated part of our marriages and one we rarely address. In fact how you and your spouse handle the complicated matter of sharing a bed can actually have a profound effect on the rest of your marriage.

When you go to bed in the evening, many couples spend at least a few minutes reflecting on their day and chatting. That time spent talking in bed may be the only time they spend totally focused on each other in their entire day. Those few minutes of conversation are critical to the overall health of the relationship and since most married couples, myself included, put a high premium on sharing a bed with their spouse - it's important to understand that when you have difficulty sharing the same bed or you go to bed alone and wake up alone - you may be isolating yourself in your marriage.

Sharing Your Bed & Your Life

The benefits of sharing a bed together include:

• Increased intimacy
• Pleasurable activity
• Increased sense of comfort
• Security in planning and decision making
• Solving problems together
• Catching up with each other

Without this time together, it can affect every other part of the couple's relationship. So when one partner snores and it drives the other partner out of the room, it's about more than just the physical act of snoring. Some couples will even forgo regular sleep in favor of maintaining their closeness together. The thing is, when we have trouble sleeping, we get cranky. When we have trouble sleeping together, we get lonely.

Cranky and lonely are two separate feelings, but both of those emotions affect our marriages and us. There's lots of help out there for sleeping problems for individuals, but not a lot about helping the two of you get a good night's sleep together and overcoming the complication of being an early bird versus a night owl versus liking a lot of pillows versus no pillows versus a firm mattress or a soft mattress and the list goes on and on and on.

Learn How to Sleep Together

When you are first married, learning how to sleep together is actually a part of orientating yourself to marriage. It's more than just a life change, it's a change in thinking, feeling and doing. There's no handbook on how to sleep together, we all figure it out for ourselves. It's about our physical and emotional security.

How do you and your spouse handle sleeping together?